In Memory

Bente Stangenes

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01/28/13 11:48 PM #1    

Russell Johnson

Bente was my friend junior and senior years in high school.  We had many adventures together including many flying trips over California in the Cessna (Santa Barbara, Davis, Vandenberg, Bakersfield, etc.).  She was exceptionally brave when we did accelerated stalls, parabolic dives, spins, rolls, low flight over terrain, night flying, and IFR.   We spent many weekends skiing at Heavenly valley, Squaw Valley, and Apline Meadows.  She often came up to our place at Agate Bay (Lake Tahoe) those summers for water skiing and hanging out.  She was my date at Senior Prom.  She even rode her bike with me over the coastal range to San Gregorio once (I did that nearly every week, but it was really something unusual for her).  I lost track of her shortly after high school.  I was devestated to learn of her premature death in 1997.  Bente hung herself from the ceiling of her Palo Alto apartment balcony on 24 Feb. 1997 (Ref: Calfornia Death Certificate - State File 3 051997 058783,  Santa Clara County Num # 39743-001697). She is buried in Alta Mesa Cemetery in Palo Alto.

08/08/13 05:06 PM #2    

Edward Chan



What can I were funny, considerate and pretty! I was really sad to learn that you passed away very prematurely!

08/20/13 08:52 PM #3    

Monica Masik (Hofstetter)

Bente was my FIRST best friend!  She and her parents moved to Oxford Avenue in Palo Alto so that her Dad could attend Stanford University for an advanced degree.  We became fast friends attending Kindergarten and First Grade at Mayfield Elementary School.  Then it was back to Norway for a number of years. …..I was heartbroken.  We again reconnected at Jordan as she and her family moved back permanently.  At Paly we went our separate ways but eventually ran into each other at UC Davis.  It was several years later that she called me out of the blue and I met her for lunch in San Francisco where I believe she was working for Levis Strauss.  It was a pleasure seeing her at several of our reunions and she always showed a genuine interest in what my family and I were doing.  Though we were very different, we shared a friendship that was based on our childhood together and our family values.


Bente, you are frequently in my thoughts……you see we shared many innocent childhood days together long before the world got complicated.  Your house still stands 2 blocks from my family home and I always smile and say a quick prayer for you every time I pass it.


You are gone but not forgotten. ….I will miss you at our 40th.

04/23/16 02:15 PM #4    

Theresa McCarty (Young)

Bente was so sweet, smart, beautiful and fun.  I will always fondly remember her.  in reading the post above I surmise that after her family moved away, they returned while she was of elementary school age since she also attended Herbert Hoover Elementary School.  I can remember going to her house on Colorado by Waverly for a birthday party.  I always felt she was a lovely person.  To her kind soul.

04/23/16 02:50 PM #5    

Theresa McCarty (Young)

From UC Davis magazine.

Bente Stangenes Shaskey '78 died in February in Palo Alto at the age of 41. She is survived by her husband, Norman.

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